Honour Time


What does it mean to honour someone? I thought about this for a while and to me, honour means to show recognition, respect, and to hold the person in high regard. It is to demonstrate to the other person, that you value them. To celebrate them.

Why is this important in coaching? Coaching is a journey and it could potentially be a difficult one for the coachee. The fact that they have chosen to take this step and possibly expose their vulnerabilities is something not to be taken lightly. I feel we as coaches need to honour our coachees for who they are, where they are at in the current moment, what they are going through, and how they are feeling.

I was reminded during the webtorial, a mindset we need to have as coaches to help honour our coachees, and that mindset we need to have is the belief that our coachees are whole, resourceful and creative. Our coachees lack nothing, they have all that is necessary to overcome and are able to bring into existence a solution to their own challenge.

So how do we show or demonstrate honour towards another? Five strategies were shared during the webtorial;

1. Minimise threat, Maximise reward

2. Engage your social brain

3. Nurture your emotional agility

4. Advocate trust over doubt

5. Facilitate reflection and insights

Of the five, two stood out for me… “Engage your social brain” and “Nurture your emotional agility”, why? Because I feel, you can’t really honour someone if you are not connected to them and if you can’t feel with them. Honouring our coachee also helps build trust, a key element in all coaching relationships.


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